Billy Coffey
Billy Coffey

What We Can

March 8, 2009  

My house is a disaster. Complete and utter. And there is no escaping it. The mess is upstairs and down, inside and out. Courtesy of a perfect storm of cold weather, a Saturday afternoon, and four children who think they’re adults.

Two kids can clutter a house on their own. No assistance is required. But when those two kids are joined by two more kids, this is the result. Toys strewn across floors and furniture. Hand and even foot prints on the walls and doors. Not to mention spilled drinks, dropped food, and a mammoth pile of dirty dishes.

This is why I frown upon play dates. They have a tendency to turn my home into Lord of the Flies.

And now, with my wife gone to take my children’s friends back to where they belong, this mess is all mine.

Where to start is always the toughest question to answer when faced with this sort of situation. Everything seems so overwhelming. How am I supposed to prioritize what needs to be done first and what can wait? Am I supposed to begin with the small or the large? Should I start upstairs and work my way down, or downstairs and work my way up?

I don’t know. It all too confusing. And in my confusion I find myself asking one more question:

What can one person do to fix all of this?

“Nothing,” I mutter, trudging into the kitchen for a cup of coffee. And since I’m there, I figure I might as well start with the dishes. So I fill up the dishwasher then transfer what’s left to the sink, where I begin the process of wash/rinse/dry.

Meanwhile, the television in the living room is broadcasting the day’s news. Bailouts and unemployment. Taxes. Inflation, deflation, and stagflation. War. Even a reference to Revelation.

Such is life in this modern age. Struggling not to overcome, but to simply keep up. Trying to hang on to job and family. Trying to still believe in this world, that we can fix things and make a difference.

I hate the news.

Not because it’s so bad or usually slanted one way or the other. No, I hate the news because it never stops. There’s always something new to worry about and something more that needs fixing.

Not unlike my house, I suppose.

Both have been made a mess by children who thought they were adults, and both need a good straightening up and cleaning.

I know this. And I know that as God has seen fit to put me here, now, then He must expect me to do some of that straightening and cleaning. But again come those questions. Where do I start? Big? Small? What should I do now and what should I wait to do later?

I don’t know. It all seems so overwhelming, this mess. It’s not just the news stories of people losing their jobs and homes. It’s the feelings those stories breed. It’s the sense of despair and resignation that so many seem to be feeling now. If we are to pull ourselves out of this, we need more than governments and stimulus packages. We need hope. Hope that not only can things get better, we are the ones to make it that way.

It’s easy sometimes to think we’re powerless to alter the course of things. Easy to think we’re too small and too puny to make things better. But I don’t think we’re so powerless.

I can’t clean my whole house, but I can wash the dishes. I can’t go everywhere and do everything, but I can take care of what’s in front of me and do what I can.

The great secret? If we all do our part, however small it may be, we will find in the end that just because things are tough now doesn’t mean they have to stay that way. And just because we can’t clean up the whole mess doesn’t mean we can’t clean up a little of it.

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Comments

  • Carol

    I really like your thinking on this one. Sometimes the task seems too great to tackle….but we just have to start somewhere. My daughter is 15 and we had a play date of sorts. A dozen or so high schoolers came over Friday night and played tag on our farm, in the dark, in the mud. Every pair of shoes and boots are covered with mud, along with my deck and entry way. I tried to tackle it, but it really is too big a mountain for me. It may take a while for that to be cleaned up….but I have to start somewhere. Thanks. Carol

  • lynnrush

    Nicely written. So true. Where do you start. You start with yourselves.

    That’s all you can do, really.

    Then, possibly, someone may see what you’re doing and try it.

    Lead by example. Pray like the dickens.

    Great post, Billy!

  • nAncY

    hope.

    a very powerful word.

  • janelle

    As I’m reading, my answer to you every time was to start small.

    When I was in Mexico, I started small…they were anywhere from 5-15 years old and we really didn’t DO anything for them; just loved them. Small can be so good!

  • Lori

    Welcome to my world, Billy. I like to call it controlled chaos, but let’s be honest, often it’s just chaos. And at least if the toys are out that means there were children playing with them right? And if there’re dirty dishes that means we had food to eat. And if there is a mountain of laundry that means we had clothes to wear. Praise the Lord for the mess.

    Keep up the God Work,
    Lori

  • Jennifer

    My vote: The mess can wait. Take a well-deserved vacation.

    We left the house in complete disarray a few days ago before we left for Florida. This is not typical for me. I’m compulsive about this sort of thing. But we left it. We got back tonight, and the mess was waiting for us. It beckons still …

    But man, we had a great vacation. :-)

  • God’s Not Finished With Us Yet…

    The way I read your post was more than just a messy home. To me it spoke far beyond that; about doing what we can in our part of His Kingdom, knowing we can’t do it alone but little by little and one by one we all make a difference. And that difference can sometimes be ENORMOUS!

    I love what Janelle said about sometimes small is good, and also what Lori wrote, referring to her home as ‘controlled chaos’. LOL….that cracked me up.

    Billy your posts are so good, and always hit right at 12:01AM….which brings a smile to my face every time I see that. Really.

    It’s easy to read between the lines and messages you are sending out as you relate your real world with how God views things from above. You put much thought into everything in relation to God. How awesome.

    I am so glad you have re-opened the floodgates of comments again. And like you (and thanks to your idea, which I followed) Ihave begun to prioritise my life; God first, family second, and blogging somewhere behind all that. I plan to only be on Monday’s and Friday’s now with the occassional weekend ‘pop in’s’.

    But the urge to read some peoples posts are sometimes overwhelming to me so I’ll have to learn to discipline myself, which I must admit I’m not doing so well at first. I mean look at the time now; it’s 1:11 on a Tuesday, (but really it’s barely even a Tuesday with the time change and all, right?) and I’m not supposed to be online Tuesdays, yet here I am. But eventually, with prayer and self discipline, I will overcome the urge and excitement wondering about another great post written by this person or that person such as yourself. The awesome thing is that I can come back to these post on my Mondays and Fridays.

    I love your post and as I wrote on Travis’s comment this month, I don’t understand why your stories and devotionals to chew on and Travis’s stories aren’t already on bookshelves today. So many people are missing out! Yet so many of us readers are also so blessed from your words. I can’t wait to see your writings in a book one day. And then I’ll be able to say ‘Hey, I know that man!’

    Thanks for the awesome comment on my blog; that was really touching for me to read coming from someone like yourself.

    Many blessings your way Billy. I look forward to Friday when I am online again and can read up on so many great posts by you as well as many other online friends.

    Until Friday,

    ~ Sarah Cecilia

  • sharilyn

    one more reminder that we cannot search for hope in circumstances or in people… our hope is built on nothing less than Jesus’ blood and righteousness…. and only by looking to Him do we find the ability, strength, and courage to hope!

    as for the house…how does one eat an elephant??? one bite at a time, my friend…one bite at a time! (funny, but i always start with the dishes, too!)

  • Alison Bryant

    “It’s not just the news stories of people losing their jobs and homes. It’s the feelings those stories breed.”

    It’s interesting to me that sometimes the increasing weight of these feelings can sneak up on us. (I guess I can only speak for myself.) Before we realize it, we’re carrying the world on our shoulders rather than giving it to God and letting Him free us to do, as you say, what we can.

  • Travis

    If you hire an illegal alien to clean your house…
    Ah, never mind. Bad idea. I was going to suggest you might qualify for some of the money the President is trying to give away if you hired some illegals, but it’s a bad idea.

  • jasonS

    I’m with you on the news thing. I read most of it online because the other seems so barraging most of the time and oten sensationalized.

    I like what you’re reminding us. I always say that we’re all leading somewhere- to God or away from Him, to fear or to faith. We can usually quietly dive in and lead more effectively than the one who screams, shouts, and tries to “change everything.” It’s about faithfulness…

  • gzusfreek

    Billy, I always stand amazed at simple yet extraordinary posts. This one kinda hit me right where I am at. Thank you! KM Wilsher