Billy Coffey
Billy Coffey

Showing up

August 31, 2009  

Saturday afternoon, early August. Hot and humid or, as the locals call it, “close.” Mood? Questionable. Thirst? Very. So I pulled off the road along US Route 11 and into the parking lot of a no-name service station, the sort of which was what you’d expect for rural Virginia—dirty windows, questionable service, and people who made putting up with both well worth the effort.

People like Hank.

The man behind the cash register greeted me with a “Howdy” as I walked through the doors, each of which had been propped open by two twelve-packs of Budweiser. I nodded back and made my way toward the drink cooler in the rear of the store.

“BETTER ONES UP HERE,” shouted a voice.

I turned, and there beneath the mounted head of a deer sat an old man. His red suspenders clashed with his brown pants and blue shirt. He twisted in a vinyl chair and tapped his cane on the bin beside him.

“ICE MAKES ‘EM COLDER THAN THAT GOL’-DARNED ‘FRIDGERATOR CAN,” he shouted again.

“You got a point there,” I told him.

“HUH?”

“YOU GOT A POINT THERE.”

“AH,” he said and smiled.

I grabbed a Coke from the bin and swabbed the condensation with my T shirt, nodding once more. The old man wheezed and coughed a hunk of phlegm into his handkerchief.

I took a sip and paced the store, taking stock of the sardines and canned vegetables, both of which had expired three months prior.

A mother and her brood of three came in just then, all of whom got their own howdy from the cashier. The kids made a bee line for the magazine rack while mom paced the aisles in search of an elusive Something.

“Do you sell salt?” she said to the cashier.

“LAST AISLE, YOUNG LADY,” the old man said, pointing his cane to the opposite side of the store. She smiled a thank you, and he smiled a you’re welcome.

He wasn’t done, either. In the next fifteen minutes, the old man had noticed the keys a customer had dropped, reminded another that his headlights were on, and squished a rather nasty cockroach.

“You have a pretty good helper over there,” I told the cashier as I paid.

He smiled and said, “Yeah, Hank’s been around forever. Used to own the place until he started getting sick.”

As if on cue, Hank began hacking again.

“So he still comes around?” I asked.

“Yep,” he said as he offered my change. “He’s deaf, weak, and the doc told him last month all those non-filter Camels have eaten his lungs up. But he still shows up every day wanting to help out and do somethin’.”

I shoved the change into my pocket and looked at Hank, who had made himself busy by using his cane to scrap half of the dead cockroach from the bottom of his boot.

I had to smile at the sight. Though I knew nothing of the man, it seemed so utterly Hank.

That a simple man in a no-name gas station on a summer afternoon could teach me something was a little unexpected, but then again there are lessons to be learned in most anything. Especially in the sight of an old man clinging to what little life he had left.

Strip away theology’s pretense and philosophy’s theories and we are faced with this one basic question when it comes to the conduct of our lives—what does God expect from us each day?

Over the years I had come up with many possible answers—to love Him and others, to do our best to leave the day a little better than we’ve found it, and so on. But after watching Hank, I knew the real answer to that question.

What does God expect from us each day? Simple.

To show up.

We can give God our hearts and our desires, give Him our minds and our talents, but if we don’t give Him our time, those things just don’t matter.

Poor Hank could have spent his last remaining days at home watching HGTV, but he didn’t. He still showed up in that little gas station every day willing to do whatever he could to help despite his weaknesses and infirmities. I think we should do the same.

Because no matter how wounded we are, no matter how broken and beaten, we can always do something to help. We can always make a difference.

Share and Enjoy:
  • Print this article!
  • Digg
  • Sphinn
  • del.icio.us
  • Facebook
  • Mixx
  • Google Bookmarks
  • StumbleUpon
  • Technorati
  • Twitter

Comments

40 Responses to “Showing up”

  1. Joyce on September 1st, 2009 3:08 am

    You have a gift for painting a picture with words. We do know how to complicate the simple in life…another great post!

  2. ~*Michelle*~ on September 1st, 2009 3:10 am

    This was a blessing to read…..it's so true on how we get so wrapped up in the busyness of life. I hope I have displayed a fraction of "Hank" in me to others and more importantly to God…..and I am gonna work on doing even more now.

    peace~

  3. Denise on September 1st, 2009 3:10 am

    Amen, amen.

  4. April on September 1st, 2009 4:04 am

    Hank gives us a wonderful example to follow! Awesome, Billy!

  5. Nitewrit on September 1st, 2009 4:12 am

    Amen.

    Larry E.

  6. John Cowart on September 1st, 2009 4:16 am

    Reading your post about Hank reminded me of Samuel sleeping in the tabernacle and giving the answer Eli told him to: Lord, here am I.

  7. Blessed Mom of 8 on September 1st, 2009 4:16 am

    AMEN and AMEN!

    Do all things without complaining and disputing…

    Too many of us find a way to get around the word "all" in life. It just isn't comfortable so why listen to and forget about living by it…YET God takes this three letter word very seriously.

    Don't just show up – count it ALL joy.

    Blessings and love,
    Jill

  8. Anne L.B. on September 1st, 2009 4:20 am

    Ah, Billy. What excellence you've painted today of something so simple and so vital to a full and rich life.

    The Lord is surely smiling. I pray you feel His pleasure.

  9. Andrea on September 1st, 2009 5:07 am

    Continuing to "show up."
    Blessings, andrea

  10. Angela on September 1st, 2009 5:16 am

    Great story! I could practically see Hank.

    And I agree, God can do a lot through someone with a willing heart who just shows up.

    Thanks for writing this!

  11. sherri on September 1st, 2009 5:29 am

    Now normally I don't enjoy stories that tell of phlegm and cockroaches, however, this one…

    I love it.

    "Just show up".

    Thanks.

  12. Heather Sunseri on September 1st, 2009 7:01 am

    Awesome, Billy!

  13. lynnrush on September 1st, 2009 7:29 am

    So true. Thank you, Billy!

  14. Candace Jean July 16 on September 1st, 2009 7:32 am

    So many "Hanks" with so little time. Thank you once again, Billy.

  15. Kelly Combs on September 1st, 2009 7:54 am

    I always loved your ability to show not tell, until the guy coughed up the phlegm. Not so much right now. ;-)

    Keep showing up – got it.

  16. T. Anne on September 1st, 2009 8:38 am

    Thank you. I needed to hear that in the worse way. I'm here now and my time is all His. =)

  17. Heart2Heart on September 1st, 2009 8:43 am

    Billy,

    This is so true! People seem to live their lives as if they are rushing towards retirement. Yet it is interesting that so many never make it that far. Some die before they get there and others, once racing to the finish line, realize that it's not so fun after all.

    Perhaps life is meant to be enjoyed each day as it comes and let the rest take care of itself.

    Love and Hugs ~ Kat

  18. FaithBarista Bonnie on September 1st, 2009 9:04 am

    "Just show up."

    Yep. I tell myself that is one thing I can do. Esp. on days like today.

    Good one, Billy!

  19. LauraLee Shaw on September 1st, 2009 9:11 am

    With tears in my eyes, I say "Amen, brother." That was phenomenal storytelling.

  20. Helen on September 1st, 2009 9:12 am

    Wow. Some days showing up is all we can do. Glad to know that even just that can be inspiring…

  21. katdish on September 1st, 2009 9:37 am

    One of my favorites, Billy. I agree with Kelly Combs. You do have the uncanny ability to "show not tell". I paint with brushes, you paint with words. (Wow, look at me getting all metaphorical and whatnot…)

  22. Mich on September 1st, 2009 9:47 am

    I loved this…

    Thanks. It spoke to my heart. Thanks for "showing up" and writing today. God used you.

  23. jasonS on September 1st, 2009 10:07 am

    Great story and great reminder.

    I did have to laugh though at the progression of these sentences, "The old man wheezed and coughed a hunk of phlegm into his handkerchief.

    I took a sip and paced the store…" What I pictured is still making me chuckle (and a little disgusted). Thanks Billy for both the inadvertent and on-purpose joy you bring. :)

  24. Amy Sorrells on September 1st, 2009 11:20 am

    Good 'un, Billy. You do have a gift with words. Is that why you're going to be famous? Seriously, love the last part of this post about "no matter how broken . . . " Amen! And don't wait until you're fixed!

  25. ~Brenda on September 1st, 2009 11:20 am

    Having grown up in a family that tends to not show up, this hits home. And I fight the tendency to crawl in my little shell and not show up, each and every day. So far, with God's help, I've shown up.

    I agree with Joyce. You do have a gift of painting a picture with words.

    Now … when does that darn book of yours come out? ;)

    ~Brenda

  26. Bridget Chumbley on September 1st, 2009 11:44 am

    Wow Billy…I felt like I was there with you (thankfully I didn't have to see the cockroach in person). Wow…just 'show up'…what a concept!
    I love learning from ALL you share!

  27. Beth E. on September 1st, 2009 11:51 am

    What a great lesson to learn…to show up!

    Thanks, Billy, for keeping it real. I learn a lot from you!

    This was a great story…well, all except the phlegm part! :p

  28. Missie on September 1st, 2009 3:21 pm

    More people need to be like Hank!

    Great entry.

  29. Rebecca on The Homefront on September 1st, 2009 5:54 pm

    I loved this post…your words have a way of making me feel right at home.

  30. Caroline on September 1st, 2009 7:18 pm

    Thank you for the simple yet profound encouragement. One thing I realize just now is that I love you writing and ponderings because you challenge me. Thank you for that and more. I loved your post yesterday too, just did not manage to leave a comment…the photo of your son said a lot.

  31. Doug Spurling on September 1st, 2009 7:40 pm

    God bless Hank – glad You showed up to introduce us to him.

  32. The Things We Carried on September 2nd, 2009 1:22 am

    Though I knew nothing of the man, it seemed so utterly Hank.

    perfect line!

  33. Bradley J. Moore on September 2nd, 2009 3:03 am

    Woody Allen said "80% of success is showing up," and I think as you say, with God, 100% of success in life is just showing up. Poignant, but a little too obvious for most of us to register.

  34. Annie K on September 2nd, 2009 7:03 am

    I'm a day late… but showed up (finally).

    I'm definitely having a hard time 'showing up' for some things lately…

  35. Daveda on September 2nd, 2009 1:08 pm

    Hey Billy, it's been awhile, I missed reading your posts while I was out of town.

    "To show up"…I like that, we show up He guides the way. I'll bet Hank does not sit in His bed in the morning trying to figure out what He might do that day either, He shows up, and lives in the moment. Thanks for this post Billy, I want to live my life showing up and trusting God to lead the way.

  36. Jennifer @ Getting Down With Jesus on September 2nd, 2009 2:09 pm

    Boo-yah. Another great Coffey original.

    Glad you showed up on the scene there, Billy. Thanks for sharing it with us. It's always a joy to see people through your eyes. You *see* people.

  37. Jennifer on September 2nd, 2009 6:55 pm

    Yep, because God always shows up. I'm afraid I've stood him up too many times to count.

  38. Beth in NC on September 2nd, 2009 8:57 pm

    As I always say, you are so talented. Hey, I think I've been to that store (ha).

    Your heart is beautiful and it always shines through your writing.

  39. Joanne Sher on September 3rd, 2009 2:03 pm

    Just show up. Yup. What an example Hank is. And you.

  40. Tina Dee Books on September 7th, 2009 11:09 pm

    I'm late, but I loved it! Thanks for something to think about. Always seems like your posts are right in line with something God's already been talking to me about.

    Confirmation received. Now I guess I better, well, show up.

    Thanks, Billy. Love how you bring us face to face up close with the things that matter in life.

    Lord bless you!

Feel free to leave a comment...
and oh, if you want a pic to show with your comment, go get a gravatar!