Billy Coffey
Billy Coffey

Life’s Great Tragedy

March 24, 2010  

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There are stories I found and stories that have found me. As I sat at the small table outside the local coffee shop, I decided this was a story that found me. And I’m glad it did. I was also glad I was paying enough attention to see it, because it almost passed right by me.

The principal character was your stereotypical little old lady. Seventy-ish. Gray hair and a neatly pressed dress that was the sort of yellow that said Hello Spring! Making her way down the sidewalk in front of me.

The years had not been so kind to her, I noticed. The stoop in her posture gave the appearance that she was about to fall headfirst into the pavement. It was an accident waiting to happen that may have only been averted by the slight limp in her right leg. Yet she managed to not only make her way, but to do so with a smile on her lips and a heartfelt “Good morning!” to anyone in her path.

She would pause in her walk just long enough to offer one of those helloes and to look at the parking meters evenly spaced to her left. The distractions of both people and technology were enough to guarantee added minutes—and quite possibly hours, I considered—to her journey from wherever she came from to wherever she was going. And yet the thought crossed my mind that this was a person unconcerned with neither distance nor time. The destination wouldn’t matter if no enjoyment was had along the way.

She jumped when she came upon the third parking meter and looked around as if some great catastrophe was about to occur. Then she squared up in front of it like an old West gunslinger ready to draw. Instead of a six shooter, out came a coin. Into the meter it went. She waited for the click that guaranteed more time, patted the machine on the side like she would her grandson’s face, and walked on.

Next down the line was a young lady who had walked out of the courthouse not twenty minutes earlier. I had seen the yellow sheet of paper she was carrying and could only assume what was written on it constituted much more bad than good. She slumped against a newspaper box and lit a cigarette, then watched her exhale float up and disappear, no doubt wishing her troubles would do the same. There she had stood ever since, waiting for the miracle of either a better life or a quicker death.

The little old lady paused beside her and spoke. I couldn’t hear what was said and so tried to convince myself it didn’t matter. I had the feeling they were simple words and not profound. A comment about the beautiful day, perhaps, or maybe a short hello.

Regardless, a few moments later the old lady waved and left, continuing her curvy path toward me. The young lady watched her go and finished her smoke.

And then something curious happened.

Just as she stepped on the remains of her cigarette, the young lady smiled. A big, toothy smile. The best sort of smile.

“Good morning, young man,” the old lady said as she passed.

“Good morning, ma’am,” I answered.

She continued on, eyes forward and not back, content to watch what was around her rather than behind. Which was a tragedy, really. Because not only did that nice old lady miss the smile she put on that young girl’s face, she also missed a young man’s reaction when he sprinted out of a nearby shop sure he would find a ticket on the windshield of his car, but confused to find instead plenty of extra time left on his meter.

Yes. Quite a tragedy. Life was full of tragedies, I thought. Like the misfortune of hurrying or the heartbreak of circumstance.

But at that moment I realized what may be the biggest tragedy of all—that we can always see the effect of this world upon us, but rarely the effect of us upon the world.

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Comments

  • http://building-his-body.blogspot.com/ Anne Lang Bundy

    A tragedy, yes. And a temporary one, too. Those little blessings are gift-wrapped and waiting for us on the other side.

  • http://susan-moment.blogspot.com/ S. Etole

    Oh, for more “little old ladies!”

  • http://www.keligwyn.com Keli Gwyn

    You brought a smile and a tear with this one, Billy. What a gifted storyteller you are!

  • http://faithfictionfriends.blogspot.com Glynn

    And one effect is the one from reading stories likes these — and to miss them would indeed be a tragedy.

  • http://www.theheartofwriting.blogspot.com Cynthia

    You touch so many with your beautiful insight. I wish you could see my smile. :-)
    Warm wishes to you, Billy!

  • Katdish

    Oh, I dunno…

    I’m guessing that sweet old lady derived much satisfaction from the acts of kindess themselves, doing God work and giving Him the glory.

  • http://extraordinary-ordinary.com Heather of the EO

    Oh Mr. Coffey, I love that this story happened around you. You made my day with the telling of it. And of course, you were just the one to have the eyes to see it the way that you see things. I love it.

    And I love that we have the choice to blaze a trail like that sweet little lady. I want to be like her.

  • Barbara Frazier

    God bless this little old lady. If I had her physical challenges I would probably be sitting at home feeling sorry for myself, not out walking up and down the street making someone elses day better. I envy your ability to really “see” things. Love you.

  • http://www.steeletheday.com Candy

    Love it. You make me want to save my quarters, Billy. Seventyish isn’t that old. (Just sayin’).

  • http://billycoffey.com Billy Coffey

    Thanks, Barbara Ann! That’s why you’re my favorite aunt!

  • http://melissabrotherton.com Melissa Brotherton

    What a great story! I hope I’m a little old lady like that, which probably means I should start being a woman like that now…

  • http://lynnmosher.blogspot.com Lynn Mosher

    Boy, oh boy! I’m so glad you didn’t miss this one, Billy! Just makes me wonder how many of these beautiful stories walk right by us every day! Oh, that we all do not miss these walking lessons! Bless you, Billy-boy, for the openness of your heart to receive these divinely appointed moments!

  • http://sandraking-beholding-god.blogspot.com/ Sandra Heska King

    I think that lady was the happiest one on the sidewalk! She must have been an angel.

  • http://katshappyathome.blogspot.com/ Kathy

    Sometimes knowing you did something good is enough reward :)

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  • http://jana-sugarspicelife.blogspot.com Jana

    WOW. I love that you were willing to see the lesson, and then to share it so well thanks Billy

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  • http://www.scrapncube.com Cindy

    I’m always so blessed when I read your blog and today is no exception… life really is about slowing down enough to see and recognize our affect upon this life and how each and every kindness is felt and received whether we see it or not.

  • http://writingwithoutpaper.blogspot.com Maureen

    You’ve taken to heart that little poem I left you a while back. Good to know awe is not waning and the looking is showing you — and us — His gifts in the form of little old ladies and toothy grins and the narratives they create.

  • http://www.redletterbelievers.blogspot.com David @ Red Letter Believers.com

    What we do has impact. What we say has meaning. That’s what should make all of our lives lived with new vigor.

  • http://www.randommusings-helen.blogspot.com Helen

    Here’s another tragedy for you… Here in Chicago, one quarter gets you 15 minutes to park…

  • http://www.lisajordanbooks.com Lisa Jordan

    The more I read your blog, the more I want to read Snow Day. You truly are a gifted writer. Thanks for taking time to savor that moment and sharing it with us. That lady blesses many. Her reward in Heaven will be bountiful.

  • http://www.BridgetChumbley.com Bridget

    Fantastic story. Thanks, Billy.

  • http://whiteplatonicdreams.blogspot.com/ T. Anne

    Ooh I love Anne L. B.’s response! We may miss it here but great will be our reward. Loved this.

  • http://www.fallible.com Katy McKenna

    That little old lady may have derived much more pleasure from imagining the happy reactions that were going on behind her back than she would have had she peeked over her shoulder to be certain. “Give, expecting nothing in return” is a thrilling venture on this path we trod…..

    I’ve written a story about TWO old ladies and me, stuck in the middle, on my blog today. You might enjoy it.

    I loved yours!

  • http://lexiconluvr.blogspot.com L.T. Elliot

    Well, then let me enlighten you.

    You, Billy Coffey, are grace. When my day brims and surges and feels like a feather will be the weight that suffocates, I read your words and remember that there is so much more good than my shortsightedness allows. Your stone is a ripple spanning seas. Thank you.

  • http://kristalynnejensen.blogspot.com Krista

    Thank you. Thank you for this today. Now the smile is mine.

  • http://mybigthree.highcallingblogs.com Monica Sharman

    Makes me wonder what I’ll be like at sevety-ish.
    Well, might as well take a look right now, at 37. (But I will NEVER wear a dress that kind of yellow!)

  • http://terragarden.blogspot.com Terra Hangen

    Thank you for sharing this story here, and I see also that beyond tragedy, the old lady is spreading joy and I hope is feeling it herself, even if she misses some of the overt reactions by people.

  • kimbuktu

    Love that story. I want my eyes to be more open to seeing these quiet sweet moments than the blaring not-so-nice things that seem to accost us in the world.

  • http://martyduane.com Marty Duane

    Couldn’t sleep last night, so I read your blog. This story grabbed my attention the most out of your recent posts, and I had to write down the closing statement.

    “that we can always see the effect of this world upon us, but rarely the effect of us upon the world.”

    I want to tell you that the effect you, Billy Coffey, have on the world.. is very positive.

    May God bless you for that.

    Marty

  • http://lauraboggess.blogspot.com laura

    A perfect gift. Thanks for unwrapping it for us.

  • http://jenniferdorhauer.blogspot.com Jennifer

    I’ve often wondered about this topic, why God doesn’t let us see our effect on others, just to let us know how we’re doing, a progress report. Yet then I wonder if we see too much of our effect, it might make us vain.

  • http://www.maryaalgaard.blogspot.com Mary Aalgaard

    Great story on small acts of kindness. Thanks for bringing it to life for us.

  • http://www.thistlecovefarm.blogspot.com Sandra

    I don’t do kind things so I can see; I do them because God sees.

  • http://www.yams.com MarkSpizer

    great post as usual!